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Truth
Truth

Truth is about creating positive change. Through this teaching we will learn how to stand up for positive change in our lives and our communities.

Truth Is To Know All Of These Things


How to Help a Friend

Let your friend know there are adults and organizations out there that can help them: Kids Help Phone Line, a guidance counsellor at school or a kind teacher or adult they trust. If they don’t find someone right away, keep looking.

Listen to your friend but let them know they don’t have to put up with someone else’s intimidating behaviour whether it’s a boyfriend or a bully at school.

It’s important to talk about it, encourage your friend not to stay silent and to keep talking until they get help.

Organize yourselves and inform friends that this kind of unequal, unhealthy relationship behaviour is not acceptable.

Take your friend seriously when they tell you they are being hurt or bullied in school. Walk with them and help them not to be alone at school if they are afraid.

Being bullied can be devastating even after it’s over. Understand if your friend might need to keep talking about it or needs support.

Report any abusive behaviour to the principal of the school.

Encourage your friend to keep a journal of any abusive or unequal relationship behaviour.

Tell your friend if he/she witnesses violence or abuse to call 911 and the Kid’s Help Line at 1-800-668-6868 for support.

 
How to Help Yourself

Talk to other friends. See if they were in an unequal relationship and find out how they handled it.

Phone the Kid’s Help Line. It’s totally confidential (you don’t have to give your name) Kids Help Line at 1-800-668-6868.

If you are seeing any of the signs of abuse in this website in your relationships, then leave the situation. Maybe it will hurt at first but you will be better off in the end.

Don’t give bullies any attention. This means do not engage or fight back. This is what they are looking for and most will move on if you ignore them.

For girls, when out with friends, be on the buddy system. Watch out for your friends and ask them to watch out for you.

Always take care of your own drinks. Get them yourself. Mix them yourself and never accept a drink from someone you don’t know.

Talk to a trusted adult – parent, doctor, teacher or family friend. Keep talking until they take you seriously. No one has the right to threaten to harm you, touch you where and how you don’t want to be touched, intimidate you or try to make you feel small.

Work with your own anger. Take a time-out, breathe or count to ten to talk yourself out of hostile thoughts.

If you think you might be abusive, or your anger is out of control, get help. You can change your behaviour.

Always be polite when chatting online or e-mailing. If someone treats you rudely, don’t respond.

If you know someone doesn’t like you, stay away from that individual.

Save messages from cyber bullies. You do not have to read it but it can be used as evidence. The police, ISP (internet service provider) or telephone company can use these messages to help you.

Never send a message when you are angry. Wait until you have cooled down and can think calmly. Words are very powerful and it can be difficult to undo the damage once it has been done.

Do not give out or share personal information online, especially with people you don’t know. Personal information includes your name, phone numbers, school name, e-mail address, pictures and your passwords.

If you witness violence or abuse, call 911 and the Kids Help Line 1-800-668-6868 for support.

 

 Where to Go for Help

• Talk to a teacher, guidance counsellor, elder in your community, or another adult you trust. Keep talking until you get help.
• Call Kids Help Line 1-800-668-6868. You do not have to give your name. You can also ask a question online at www.kidshelp.sympatico.ca
• If it’s an emergency, call 911 or your local police number.

 

Tips for Boys

• It's important for you to choose someone who likes you for who you are and to be yourself in that relationship, no matter if it’s a girlfriend or your best friend. Feeling free to be yourself can be difficult to learn to do especially when we are getting so many messages from outside ourselves about what a real man is. Learn to be true to yourself.

• If you treat others equally, you will be treated equally. When in a relationship, ask your girlfriend her opinion. Listen to her and take what she says seriously. This shows you respect her and her mind. Speak up when you hear someone making jokes about girls, putting them down. It is outdated behaviour to treat girls and women disrespectfully.

• Being a friend to your girlfriend is the best way to be in a relationship. Friends help each other. They listen and are there when their friend needs help. Take the time to spend time together and get to know each other. 

• Speak out. Relationships take lots of communication and this flow of communication should feel equal and respectful and that includes listening to each other and not discounting what the other says.

• Disagreements are part of life. They are one way we let people know who we are. We are all different and cannot always get along. Arguments can be resolved without yelling or blaming. Try to listen to each other and work things out together.

• It’s important for you and your girlfriend to have your own life and activities apart from each other. As we get older, this continues to be important as we are individuals at heart and need time alone, with our friends, or engaged in activities which stimulate our development.

 

 Tips for Girls

• It's important for you to choose someone who likes you for who you are and to be yourself in that relationship, no matter if it’s a boyfriend or your best friend. Feeling free to be yourself can be difficult to learn to do especially when we are getting so many messages from outside ourselves about what a real woman is. Learn to be true to yourself.
• Expect to be treated equally. Be careful to hang out with people who talk about or show equality to girls.
• Being a friend to your boyfriend is the best way to be in a relationship. Friends help one another, they listen and are there when their friend
needs help.
• Speak out. Relationships take lots of communication and this flow of communication should feel equal and respectful including listening to each
other and not discounting what the other says.
• Disagreements are part of life. They are one way we let people know who we are. We are all different and cannot always get along. Arguments can
be resolved without yelling or blaming. Try to listen to each other and work things out together.
• It’s important for you and your boyfriend to have your own life and activities apart from each other. As we get older, this continues to be
important as we are individuals at heart and need time alone, with our friends, or engaged in activities which stimulate our development.


 
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