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There are many different forms of violence.  From this teaching, we will learn about them and gain understanding in how to make changes in our ways.

Wisdom is to learn and make it a habit to treat boys, girls and each other equally.

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What is Abusive Behaviour

As First Nations people, abusive behaviour is not our original way of relating to each other, whether it be to our friends, family members, between man and woman, boy or girl. This behaviour has been learned from influences outside our own over many years, so we have forgotten our original cultural teachings around relating to each other with kindness and respect.

Over time these negative messages have come from residential schools, historical influences, the media and advertising on television. These messages can become part of who we are without us realizing it. These ways of behaving have to do with the way men and women can sometimes treat each other.


Types of Abuse

There are different types of abusive behaviour in relationships. Here are some examples of what that might look like.

Physical Abuse
Physical abuse is when a person touches you with an intention to hurt you or cause pain. Some examples are: pushing, pinching, biting, pulling hair, choking,
kicking, or using a weapon or other item to hurt or restrain you.

Emotional or Verbal Abuse
Emotional or verbal abuse is when a person says something or does something that makes you afraid or feel bad about yourself. This can include being yelled at or
embarrassed in front of others, someone telling you what to do, being ignored, someone saying mean things about your family or friends, being told what you can and cannot wear and threatening to hurt you or themselves. If you are being pressured to use alcohol, drugs or any other form of substance to get high, this is also a form of abuse as it is keeping you from spending time with friends or family.

Other Abuse
This can happen when a person touches you or makes you touch them in a way that feels uncomfortable. This may include kissing or forcing you to touch
the other person’s private body parts or your own private body parts. It can occur when a person has any sexual contact with you that you do not want. You may have said no or been unable to say no because you were tricked or the other person has threatened you or stopped you from being able to leave the situation. Sexual abuse is when people are saying or doing sexual things that you don’t feel comfortable with or don’t want.

Sometimes being a witness or participant to violence or unequal behaviour can affect the choices we may make in the future. Other forms of violence that young people may be subjected to are:

Bullying and Cyber Bullying
Bullying can happen either online (e-mail, text message) or in person but can take on the following effects. Someone
may try to hurt or scare another person on purpose who many have a difficult time defending themselves, they may either be smaller physically or shy. This can be done (again online or in person) with rumor spreading or name-calling, taking away something that is important to you. This type of violence is usually on-going with the threat of future attacks. Bullies have often been hurt themselves. The behaviour that starts out as bullying can continue into adult life and can lead to the person losing their job, family or freedom (spending time in prison).

Following someone, unwanted e-mailing or text messages, constantly entering someone’s life or space without their permission.

Is when a group of youth (very often between the ages of twelve to sixteen) ranging in numbers from six to twenty-five overpower one or
two people and physically harm, rob or frighten them.

Dating Violence
Any kind of emotional, physical or sexual abuse when the male and female are in a dating relationship. This can include putting
drugs in a girl’s drink that can make her black out or do things that she doesn’t want to do. While she is on this drug a young man could abuse her in a sexual/physical way without her permission.

Media Violence
When Aboriginal people are represented negatively in the media (also called stereotypes) this can lead to low self-esteem and
contribute to the loss of cultural identity for young native men and women.

Being treated differently, (usually negatively) because of one’s race, skin colour, cultural or religious beliefs.





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